I was contemplating some things today, and I kind of came to a realization--maybe due to the excellent scotch of which I partook last night, maybe due to the fact that my bitterness (realism?) has finally made me the wise old woman my friends claim that I am.
My realization is this: men don't want strong, intelligent women. They will always--always--say that they want strong, intelligent women. But the reality of it is, men want dumb girls with no goals (or at least ones who are dumber than they are) because those girls can be molded into the "perfect" mate. Dumb girls won't stand up for themselves because they think that their man knows best. Dumb girls won't argue a point because they are blissful in their ignorance. And dumb girls with no goals can never make more money than their man--the "provider." And the worst of it is, men like it that way.
Now one might ask, "But shouldn't a guy be flattered that a smart, independent woman is attracted to him? Shouldn't he feel like a superstar instead of running as fast as he can in the other direction?" Of course he should. But it's almost never the case because of one simple, stupid principle of human nature: a strong woman will threaten his masculinity. That's right, ladies--if you have brains and ambition, the world has doomed you to be single for life because Ugg over there thinks he might have trouble bashing you on the head with his club and dragging you back to his cave. If he were able to see out from under his brow-ridge, he might notice that you're beautiful, witty, intelligent, and an all-round awesome catch. But apparently you're just too highly evolved.
So what's the solution? Should we women try to pass ourselves off as blithering australopitheci? Should we stave off our outgoing, ambitious personalities in favor of simpering meekness? Should we hide our graduate degrees like we hide a zit (i.e. with lots and lots of makeup)?
I, for one, am not willing to do any of these things. Then again, I'm not really willing to die a lonely old cat lady either. There's got to be some kind of tradeoff, but hell if I can figure out what it is.
So, guys, we can't help being smart (and we shouldn't have to), but because we're smart, we all know that you're completely full of crap when you tell us you're "tired of games" and want a "strong woman who knows what she wants in life." What you want is a girl who doesn't think for herself but who looks pretty on your arm.
(I think I'm going to go read some Latin now or something...)
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Bravo! Excellent points... may I interject? Perhaps your bitterness has clouded your judgment as it relates to men; what we say is what we want. Nothing in the description of "strong, intelligent women" includes over-bearing, controlling, jealous, know-it-all, or naggy. It does, however, lack "independent" as a personal qualifier but most men just assume that that's implied under your "strong woman who knows what she wants in life" description. All men are different but perhaps you're correct, men in CO might be that misleading... but think, their strategy would never be put in play if it was never successful, eh?!
Final Thoughts: [russ.] "Не сограшишь, не раскаешься" (If you don't sin, you can't repent)... pointing fingers never wins wars, only battles against uninterested or unmotivated combatants. :)
Keep the rants coming, they're actually entertaining... :)
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